Easter Angel?

 

We had decent weather and a nice dinner at Sharon's for Easter. Gretchen and the boys were all dressed. Gretchen pressured me into a dress insisting that we go to the dinner "fancy" so I had to break out the only outfit that fits me. Sigh.... She looks good though...

Exquisite

While Sean and Evan are keeping us busy, we try to make sure Gretchen doesn't lose out on quality time with us.  Steve and I both have different ways of doing it but we strive for one on one time with her when we can.  For example Steve took Gretchen skiing last month.  He did not ski at all, just watched her class.  She seemed to like it and stayed for the entire class unlike other sports classes we've done where she has wanted to leave 10 minutes before it was over. 

Steve and I also take switch off each night on who does bedtime so the kids never get used to one person all the time.  I use bedtime as a time to chat a little and goof off a little with my daughter.  One of these chats was a little argument about what she would like to be called.  I call her cutie pie, cute stuff, cutey, etc but she doesn't like it.  She wants to hear pretty which I oblige most times.  This one particular night I asked her what she would like to be called if not cute.  She paused for a moment and thought about it.  With wide eyes she looked at me and said:  exquisite.  I asked her where she learned that word but she couldn't remember.  I have yet to work that into a sentence since it doesn't flow off the tongue so easily but I'm working on it.  She is after all, my exquisite little pretty beauty..... nah, that needs work!

Rewards Program

It has been a while since I updated the blog.  I totally skipped over Christmas but I did post to the boys' blog about our Christmas.  As I mentioned before, we transitioned Gretchen to a new daycare school setting in August.  They gave us an assessment of her in November that indicated she needed some fine motor help as she cannot write yet.  We ended seeing an occupational therapist to help with her writing skills.  This whole ordeal, yes ordeal, has been difficult for all of us on some level.  With the twins arriving, our lives were turned upside down and to some degree attention to some preschool skills got lost in the shuffle at our house.  Both Steve and I blame ourselves a little though we're trying not to make a big deal of it.  Another issue, in our minds at least, is that she has just recently figured out she is a lefty which is challenging for us as rightys.  I personally think Gretchen does notice how the kids are writing at school and has frustration about her abilities. 

We have had some behavior issues lately (possibly a result of her frustration) that have pushed Steve and I on to the next level of parenting.  We decided to start the rewards program to get her behavior and outbursts at school in check.  She needs to earn twenty stickers in five days to get a "prize" at the end of the week.  The prizes are of her choosing.  Week one was dinner and a ride on the merry-go-round at the mall.  The second week was a "camp in" where we set up her ladybug tent in the front room and slept there for the night (mommy was on the futon by her).  Last week it was a weekend of dressing up as Princess Leia.  This week she wants to have her hamburger hut set up for the weekend.  So far, it has really helped.  We've been reading Chick Moorman's book Parent Talk to help us adjust our expectations and language which has also been helping us with Gretchen.  Though I don't need to say it, I will say how much we love her and want her to be confident, curious and creative!

I know this is not a new path for parents but it's new for us.  We want her to be ready for kindergarten so we have been pushing activities that we know will strengthen her hands:  writing, coloring, playdough, lacing cards, necklace making, cutting, etc.  I am optimistic that she will be fine next year as long as we can keep the activities fun and constructive!  Now I understand why everyone thinks babies are easier (which they are not - just different, especially when you have twins).

Doing the Funky Chicken?

Steve told Gretchen to dance last weekend and she started moving her thumbs and making cute little poses.  I have seen her dance before but it was more of a bounce or shuffle.  This time is was a full on Elaine (from Seinfeld)....  Still the pictures were pretty cute...

A Child's Anguish

Sounds dramatic I know but we lost a cat this weekend (my dear little Pepa) to illness and old age.  While Steve and I knew she was not well, we didn't know how long she had left.  We found her Sunday morning on the bottom of the stairs.  Gretchen was so upset - she just wailed and wailed.  Her mind kept jumping around - first she thought we should get a new cat then she decided she didn't want a new cat.  After about an hour, she calmed down.  Periodically through the day she would tell us she missed Pepa.  We told her we did too. 

G is for Gretchen

First day at her new school....

All Grown Up!

Today is Gretchen's last day at her current daycare.  On Monday she starts a different place that has a preschool curriculum.  We hate leaving but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.  Gretchen loves her current teacher so I think the transition might be hard but she would have moved to a new room next week regardless of what school or daycare we're going to.  I was always worried that I would envy the people who my child bonded with at daycare but instead I'm relieved.  I feel good that there is someone at school that she trusts and cherishes (and I'm not overdoing it when I say cherish....  she loves her teacher).  We met the new teachers a few weeks ago and one of them said something that I can really relate to...  She said kids want to please their teachers...almost even more than there parents so they are in a very meaningful position to teach respect, discipline, kindness, etc. to our young ones.  I just hope every year we get someone who understand this and takes it seriously and respectfully.

It's the little things

Gretchen never ceases to amaze me.... It truly is the little things in life for a four year old! Even though we had a busy weekend with birthday parties, parades, carnivals and swimming, Gretchen was the most happy about two things. Lenore, her grandmother, bought her an accordion which she loved the moment we handed it to her. She played it on and off all weekend. Then last night, I gave her a Scooby Doo nightgown to wear that Steve's sister made from a t-shirt. She told me she wanted to wear it every night! When Steve came in to say goodnight, she yelled "look what Auntie Sharon made me!" I can't predict it but boy when it happens, she is like a light bulb shining bright!

First Camping Trip

I already blogged about the camping trip we just took this week but I didn't mention my little Gretchen much. The truth is, she was pretty good - a little ornery but nothing you wouldn't expect from a 4 year old who is battling for attention with two baby brothers. I thought she might freak out in the tent about bugs or critters at least in the dark but she was pretty tired most of the time. While she has a big imagination it did not take her down that scary road that sleeping in the outdoors might lead (to my relief). Steve's sister brought bandannas for all of us so we were "camp girls" as Gretchen liked to say. While I think she was bored some of the time at the camp site (we spent the first evening getting camp set up), she did amuse herself and us with songs. She found a big flat rock near our site that she called a stage which she stood on and sang at the top of her lungs. I'm sure everyone else enjoyed it! (maybe?) Steve wanted to take the girls fishing but with two babies with us we were lucky to get in a hike. There is always next year!

Little Kids Party

Gretchen had a nice kids party on July 11th. The theme was bugs so that the little boys in her class would be interested too. Almost all of the kids were shy coming into the party, gripping their parents' hands or legs but after awhile they warmed up. We had pizza, fruit salad and cake which was enjoyed by all. The kids did a craft where they painted a flower pot and then they colored butterflies. After that, the kids ate and sat for a rendition of the Hungry Caterpillar. Finally, they did a few games: one was find the bugs in the grass and the other was pin the bug on the flower. We ate cake and everyone went home. It was a quick and chaotic one and a half but I think the kids enjoyed themselves. Corralling Gretchen was difficult so I went to each child and passed out their goody bags. I love the big eyes widening as they realize you are giving them something (at least while it's innocent!). This weekend is the boys birthday party at home. We're not doing a "theme" or anything but I hope the weather is warm for swimming! Pictures of Chuck E Cheese and the bug party are posted here.

She's 4 today

Our little girl is four years old. I can hardly believe it.... Where did the time go? It took all year to train her fingers to show three and now she's gotta learn 4 (it should be easier). For her birthday, we got snacks for her class at school. Tonight we're going to Chuck E Cheese to celebrate her birthday and then Saturday she's having a kids party at the park district (the theme is "bug party"). Since we're a party at the house for the boys, I wanted her to feel special today for her birthday.... I think she will!